Monday, December 31, 2007
I could go on and on about flooring issues and cabinets woes but I'll spare you. It just gets overwhelming sometimes owning an older home. Seems there are countless tasks that need to be done to make it more liveable and we are always in a constant mode of waiting until the money is right to do the things we want.
Then I'm told by others who hear our complaints, "Welcome to home ownership." It never ends. And I can't help but wonder, am I spoiled? There are so many people that have less than I do and there are many people who have more. Do I really have the right to want more? Why do we do that to ourselves? Will it ever be good enough? I suppose the answer is no. It's human nature to always want more, always want better. How do we break those chains? Why can't we just be content with what we have? I try to but it is soooo hard. Just needing to vent.
Thursday, December 27, 2007
Christmas morning we woke and ate cinnamon rolls, unloaded our stockings, and then dug into our presents. This year we decided to splurge quite a bit and I must say it was a memorable and fun experience. I even sent Jeff on a treasure hunt for his "surprise" gift. Kadyn did rather well with it all but would get into each gift too much and loose her motivation to open others because of it. Her favorite gift was the travel size doodle pad. I thought that weird considering she already has a big one. She also was quite fond of the Mr. Potatoe Head's glasses which she insists on wearing. She has yet to put them on the Mr. Potatoe head. For lunch we made Chile Renos. Yummy! No family, no friends, just the three of us the whole day and it was a lot of fun.
Monday, December 17, 2007
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Monday, December 10, 2007
Kadyn is now putting two sometimes three words together. Some of her accomplishments include: baby go night night, come on guyeeeeez, bye bye guyeeeez, bye bye ya'll, boo pooped, where dada, and I pooped. Her vocabulary is just exploding and I am loving it! It's so much easier to communicate with her and understand her, although like every mother of an almost two year old, I'm sure only Jeff and I understand her most of the time. Sometimes I'm surprised what I can interpret. Two days ago I asked her to ask for juice instead of just demanding it, so "juice please" came out "doof cheese." Then there is my all time favorite, "drink" is always "gunk," I had to clue Jeff in on that one. She's done it forever, I was kind of surprised he didn't get it by now.
In other news we are supposed to be in the middle of another ice storm. It was predicted to be as bad as last year's storm but so far it has been much milder than last year. The next round is coming from 6:00 p.m tonight to 6:00 p.m. tomorrow night. Hopefully this year we will be spared the power outages we had last year.
Monday, December 3, 2007
Last week my youngest, Kendall (another daycare kid), showed up with the stomach flu for two days. His mother thought he was better and sent him because she was sick as well. I have to give her credit though, as a new mother it can be really difficult to tell whether your child is really sick or not. Infants can be finicky eaters for any number of reasons and with them spitting up as often as they do, it's hard to tell whether it's real puking or not.
Well to make a long story short, the other toddler caught it and hurled all over the table and carpet two times before his mother came to get him. Needless to say, I have been frantically sterilizing every toy and steaming all my carpets like crazy ever since. With all that puke I am really amazed that as of today, none of us have caught it.
As for other news, I think Kadyn may have entered a new naughty phase. Seems whenever she gets frustrated for whatever reason (usually not getting her way) she hits. It's never very hard or forceful and so far it has only been directed towards Jeff and I, but I think it's her new way of showing she is displeased. As hard as it is not to laugh, I keep my composure and off to the naughty spot she goes and the rest goes as follows: cry, cry, she proceeds to hit the wall while on the naughty spot....off to the crib we go for two minutes...more crying, louder crying...back to the naughty spot to try to do it appropriately for two minutes...crying....stand up explain again why we don't hit, tell mommy your sorry...hug mommy, mommy tells daughter she loves her...wipe the tears away....remind her what will happen if she does it again.
Last weekend seemed to be the worst of it, today she has been very well behaved. Hopefully the phase is over. What a week!
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Our trip down was good. We opted to travel overnight. Kadyn was great. She slept for about half of it. Surprisingly she was awake a good portion of the wee hours of the morning. She seemed a little dazed. She just sat there quietly and gazed at the lights. Our trip to Wichita on the way back wasn't as pleasant. 3 hours can seem like eternity when your kid starts getting restless. The trip from Wichita to Springfield was good. Play dough, crayons, toys, silly songs, snacks, and DVD's saved the day.
The family was good. Kadyn seemed to bond with papa (my dad) and baba (Jeff's dad) very well. She even cried, in fact, when she had to leave papa. We celebrated Christmas with my sister and parents and Kadyn got a vacuum which she LOVES. When I clean house I have a little mini me. We also went to the YMCA and went swimming with my family. This was Kadyn's first real big pool experience. She was very quiet and soaked it all in.
We spent one night in Wichita and visted our good friends Keenan, Sara, Ari, Kelsey and Brent, and Karis. They were all very good and the babies, of course, were cute as pie. Ari seemed especially fascinated with Jeff, perhaps it was the beard. Karis was a big ham. Cute, cute, cute. It was good to catch up and have a half way point to break up our trip back.
Overall we are pleased with our trip. Hope everyone else had a good time too. Back to normalcy. Until next time.....taa taa.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
I couldn't resist. Jeff drove me back, and we secretly bought him and gave him to her at home. Of course he went to bed with her that night, and 10 minutes after I put her down, I heard her in there having quite the conversation with him, saying his name over and over again, a little bit of jibber jabber, and a couple mentions of mama followed by smooching sounds. It was soooo cute. Ever since then he joins her for all storytimes and prayer before bed. He even went on a trip to small group with us last Wednesday.
So everyone, we are now the proud parents of one bubbly little girl and one giant red stuffed Elmo.
On to other news, we got our family photos taken last Saturday. Kadyn was not easy to persuade to smile. She thought the camera lady was nuts and wanted nothing to do with her. I tried everything from singing her favorite songs to doing jumping jacks (originally asked Jeff to do that one, but he wasn't a good sport about jumping jacks). Finally I hit the magic button, "Want a COOOKIE?????" Big smiles. I'm surprised I could ask her as many times as I did without having to follow through and get a smile each time. Of course when we were all done she did get her reward. Again, I am not a parent that uses bribes, but sometimes you reach for deperate measures to get your kid to crack a smile for those moments you know you will loose forever once the day it through.
We will be traveling to Garden for Turkey Day and seeing both sets of parents, my sister, and Jeff's brother. We are contemplating whether we should leave the night before and drive through the night or just chance Kadyn being a complete mess stuck in a car seat for 8 hours during her wakeful times. I really don't know what I prefer. I get worried about one of us falling asleep at the wheel if we drive through the night, but Jeff is such a night owl. With the right music and caffeine, he usually fairs pretty well. We could take turns but hmmm, still not too sure.
Well at the risk of this being rather lengthy I'll stop for now. When I'm free of kids I'll post some Elmo pics for you all to see.
Hope you all have a yummy, fun, safe, and happy turkey day.
Monday, November 5, 2007
Friday, November 2, 2007
Two days ago our microwave went blitz. We bought a new cheap tiny one to replace it for now. I decided I wanted to put it on this cabinet beside the fridge so I didn't take any of our countertop space up. Got the fridge pulled out only to find a two pronged outlet. Had to put it on the countertop whether I liked it or not. As I was pushing the fridge back, the water line to our fridge busted. Water was going everywhere. I started letting it drain into a trashcan and alternated with another bucket dumping them every two mintues. We don't have a turn off valve inside the house for the water. The only way to turn off our water was going into the crawl space under the house or going out to the street (we both fear there are snakes under our house). We opted for the street.
I had seen our culligan man do it once but didn't remember very clearly, so I sent Jeff out with a flashlight and a wrench. Apparently all you had to do was turn a knob half a turn for off and half a turn for on. Jeff just kept turning it round and round. The water would slow down and speed up, slow down and speed up. We were dumbfounded. 45 minutes later and one phone call to the 24 hour plumber (which never returned our call until the next morning), we finally got the water off.
The good news, I had a brand new microwave to warm up the water I got at the quick store around midnight to wash my face and brush my teeth with. No showers the next day; we were stinky, but we are now the proud owners of one brand shiny new shut off valve to the water on our fridge.
I'm still exhausted from that night.
Tuesday, October 30, 2007
Tonight we gave it our first go around after we ate supper. We had a blast! I think Jeff and I got into it a little more than Kadyn. Jeff did win, but I've got plenty of time to practice up with the kids during the day. It took Kadyn awhile to realize that the point was to try to roll the ball from afar rather than drop the ball right on the pins. We enjoyed it so much that we are thinking of making it a Bilberry family tradition that we do every Christmas after Lunch. We'll see. We really want to start some traditions that are uniquely ours and this one seems to be a forerunner. I highly recommend it!
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
Last night we went to the spooktacular put on by our local zoo. It was really neat. There were jackolanterns lining the entire walkway, cutouts of all kinds of children's characters within the exhibits, Christmas lights everywhere, and all other kinds of Halloween decorations. There was a maze, dinosaur bone digging activity, and a blown up castle trampoline. Along the walkway there were also booths with people in costume to give your little trick or treater some candy. Kadyn went all decked out in her chili pepper costume. She did really well until we saw Ronald McDonald, then she FREAKED out! She dropped her pumpkin and came screaming to me. I guess she doesn't like clowns. After we were done we walked out with 10 pieces of candy and one exhausted little girl. There was a lot to take in. She couldn't do a lot of it, but I think she really enjoyed herself.
In other news, today I tried to find a coat that fit Kadyn. Grabbed a hand me down out of the closet that looked like it would fit and instead she looked like a giant marsh mellow. I laughed so hard when I saw her in it that I had to take a picture.
I also have attached a video with Kadyn teasing Brutus with her new ball. Brutus pops just about every ball we give Kadyn so this seemed like a good way to play with Brutus and keep the ball intact. She thought it was hilarious.
Monday, October 15, 2007
Friday, October 12, 2007
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
Tuesday, October 9, 2007
Tuesday, October 2, 2007
Kadyn has been having a lot of fun with daddy lately. I attached some of her latest play sessions. I also attached a picture of her using markers for the first time. I'm sure some of you have seen much worse, and honestly I was expecting her to get much more on herself. That's why I stripped her down to nothing but her diaper. Jeff calls the picture nude art.
I think I have finally found resolution to Kadyn's sleep issues. Leaving the door open is doing the trick. I have even had a couple of times where she didn't cry at all. If she does cry, usually going in a time or two does the trick, so I am feeling much better about the entire situation. Wonder what she'll trip me up with next:)
Sunday, September 30, 2007
And for more good news, Kadyn went down tonight without even a wimper. This new method of leaving the door open is starting to work. Last night she slept through the whole night; that is a first in a week. I just hope this new improvement continues when the kids are here tomorrow and they all go down for their naps. Liam, the other toddler, always cries for 10-15 minutes before he falls asleep, and that seems to egg Kadyn on, so we'll see. At least for now I feel so much better that she isn't pitching fits anymore about going down. The worst it has been all weekend was just a couple wimpers with me having to go in and remind her to lay back down a couple times. So needless to say, looks like this week is off to a better start.
Kadyn is really starting to try to say all kinds of words these days. She now will try to say house, moon, car, flower, Boo (Brutus), up, down, more, help, mama, dada, and her all time favorite apple. She says apple a lot. They are all so adorable when she says them and she practices them quite a bit, especially at the dinner table. They are far from perfect and perhaps her father and I are the only ones that can translate them, but at least we are starting to communicate.
I have also taught Kadyn how to pray. We pray before every snack and every meal. She knows that it is always expected before we can eat and seems to respect that. I just melt when I see her fold her hands, bow her head, and mumble in complete jibberish along with me as I pray outloud. I have even forgot a time or two and she took the initiative to remember for me. Oh, such sweet times!
Another new thing for Kadyn has been timeouts on a time out rug. For awhile we were doing time outs in the crib, but with all these sleep issues I decided I needed to try something else just in case. I have tried to do the rug before but I think she was too young to understand the whole concept of it all. However, she seems to comprehend it now and is starting to get the hang of it. She does not like it by any means, which means it is working. She only tried to get up the first two times I have used it and since then, stays there until her 2 minutes are up. I am so thrilled it works. Her latest offenses have involved stealing toys and pushing the other toddler. I'm so embarassed that my kid has to be the daycare bully; we are going to nip this in the butt as soon as possible.
So here's to a new week of new methods that are working.....for now.
Once word got out a search team of 100 people went out to look for him. Around 11:30 I got another call that he had been found, very tired, freezing cold, and almost too weak to even walk. The horse was loose and was on foot. This morning I heard that he was back in the cliffs with a gentleman who is very familiar with the area looking for the horse on horseback, which apparently is the only way to get to where he left him. The worry is that the horse will be too weak to get out or even injured, that is if they can even find him. There is no food or water for the horse in the canyon and the only way to give him water or food is to carry it in on horseback. If the horse has made it out of the canyon on his own, he should be able to find some food and water and perhaps some of the other wild horse herds in the area. According to the gentleman who has gone back into the canyon with my dad, there are only 3 ways to get out of this canyon and a helicopter lift isn't an option for the area.
So if you are reading this, please pray for my dad and the recovery of this horse. I know it's kind of a weird request to pray for a horse, but it means a lot to my dad, and I'm not sure how well he would take it if something happened to this horse. My dad sees this horse like we see our dog, he's part of the family.
Friday, September 28, 2007
It has been 5 days since my last post about Kadyn and her sleep issues. What a week. We have had some days where it took her 5 minutes of screaming before sleep, some days of 10-15 minutes, and today an hour. Every night she has woken up crying at least once if not two or three times which thankfully only lasted 5 minutes or less each time. This morning she woke an hour before she normally wakes and it was still dark outside. I decided to wait it out and see if she would go back to sleep. Forty five minutes later she was still crying and it was time to get up. Now I was facing the option of getting her up for the day and sending the message that if you cry you'll get what you want, or making her stay in the crib until she calmed down, regardless of the fact that it was now time to get up. I chose the latter because I had parents showing up and really didn't want them witnessing Kadyn's little fit. Then surprise, surprise! Nap time took an hour for her to go down, the longest time since Monday. Perhaps I should have made her stick it out. I'm so tired of the crying. It really gets to you after an entire week.
Needless to say I end today very tired myself and a little emotionally drained. Why is my little girl struggling with this? By the time all the kids were picked up for the day and Jeff came home, I finally broke down and cried. Kadyn look so concerned and just wanted me to hold her. I think she knew I needed comforted.
She had a doctor's appt. for her 18 month check up Tuesday where the doctor confirmed that we were doing the right technique going in every 10 minutes or so and telling her to lay back down, but so far I haven't seen any significant results. It seems to differ everyday. I was really expecting to see a more steady improvement by now.
What makes it worse is that when I lay her down for her nap she may cry for awhile and then calm down, but as soon as I put another child down for a nap and that child starts to cry, Kadyn gets stirred and starts crying again. It's almost like they fuel each other. And to top it all off, she has a cold and might be teething again. Therefore, I'm not even sure I'm being fair expecting an improvement knowing she's ill. However, I really don't think this behavior has anything to do with a cold or teething. Read on to find out why.
Today I tried something new just because I was desperate. When I went in after she had cried for 10 minutes, I left the door open as I left. Then she started to cry and I went in IMMEDIATELY and told her to lay down and left again; again door stayed open. The minute I would step through the door she would lay down without even being told and be quiet. I did it maybe 4 or 5 more times and at last.....silence. That sure took a lot less time and crying out of the equation. So tonight I did the same and got the same results. Took maybe 2 or 3 minutes tops. Maybe I'm on to something. Everything I've read says that at this age they can mentally picture you in their minds and it's no longer out of sight out of mind. That sometimes they think that you've really left when you walk out of that room; it's called object permanence. So....perhaps by leaving the door open and popping in the moment I hear her start in, I'm reassuring her that I haven't gone anywhere. The only thing I don't like about the door being open is if there is a loud noise, she wakes. Therefore, I'm closing the door as soon as I know she's asleep. However, if she wakes tonight to a closed door, I'm sure there will be more crying. Hmmmm....what to do, what to do. I guess I'll play it by ear.
Well anyways, I suppose I should end this blog session, Jeff is bugging me to get off so we can watch some TV together and tells me that all my blogs get a bit wordy and he doesn't always have the patience to read them. So....if you have made it this far, congrats. You don't have ADHD. Thanks for reading my lengthy rant. I feel much better now. Here's to another week of less crying, hopefully. I'll keep you posted.
Toodles for now!
Monday, September 24, 2007
So Saturday rolled around and she literally cried for an hour and a half when I put her down for a nap. I kept going in every 10 minutes, laying her back down, and telling her to go to sleep. She would scream at the top of her lungs in her crib and stomp her feet. Obviously, she was throwing a fit. After about an hour and a 15 minutes, Jeff looked at me and asked how much longer I was going to let her cry. I really didn't know. Hmmmm what to do, what to do? As a mother you want to run in there and comfort her, but as a parent you know that doing that could potentially make the situation more difficult for next time. Your mind starts to play tricks on you making you think that you are permanently physicologically damaging your child's emotions and feelings all the while telling you that if you go in there and whisk her into your arms and give her the attention she's wanting, she has won and the battle; that you have only taught her that if she cries long enough and hard enough, she can have her way. Your mind is also telling you that there is no end in sight, that she will never stop crying and 3 hours later you will have no choice but to give in.
So what did I do? I prayed and waited and kept going in and telling her to go to sleep every 10 minutes until at last an hour and a half into this process there was silence. She was out. Desparate to know if I had done the right thing I made Jeff take me to the bookstore and buy the supernanny book which seemed to support my stance. Thank goodness. At least one expert agrees with me. That night I was pleasantly surprised that it only took her 5 minutes of pitching a fit to go down. The next day the same for her nap and bedtime. We are by no means back to where we were, and I anticipate some days may be worse than others. However, I do see an end in sight and I am glad that I stuck with my guns.
Supernanny says separation anxiety peaks at 9 months and 18 months. Kadyn is 18 months. I'm guessing that is what brought this all on suddenly. She turned 18 months on the 20th almost exactly when this all started.
I am happy to report that I was able to drop her off at the church nursery and attend the entire service without being paged. I know she cried, but it was nothing like last week. So I am feeling more confident that I am still a good parent. To all you parents out there that second guess your decisions, know you're not alone. But usually if you follow your instincts and stand firm, you will prevail and your child won't resent you forever. It's super hard to do, but it does pay off.
Sunday, September 16, 2007
Monday, September 10, 2007
We found a spot on our ceiling that we had not noticed before. When we touched it, we discovered that it was damp. Our roof is leaking again (this after a 500 dollar repair last year)! Needless to say, we're scratching our heads now thinking, where do we start? This part of home ownership is for the birds! Anyone have some lucky lotto numbers we could borrow?
Wednesday, September 5, 2007
Monday, August 27, 2007
Monday, August 20, 2007
We had a lot of fun with Kadyn this weekend and our new music channels on cable. As you can see in this video Kadyn really knows how to break it down. In fact, we took her to a wedding reception and she got to show off her new moves. She enjoyed it so much that she cried when we had to leave because it was bedtime. I think watching her dance is one of the cutest things I ever saw.
Wednesday, August 15, 2007
Tuesday, August 14, 2007
Tuesday, August 7, 2007
Yet another adorable video from your dearest! It's one thing to watch your child grin from ear to ear as you cover your eyes and boo in thier face, but you know they've reached a whole other level when they become the peekabooer.
I've also added two picks of Daddy reading Kadyn some stories (she loves reading) and a few pics of her helping me cook. She really wants to help me now days. The other day she found a rag on the floor and went around pretending to clean everything with it. Do I have her trained well or what!
Last weekend Kadyn had a great game of chase going on with Daddy. She has recently learned how to run, not very quickly yet, but still fast enough to be classified as a run. And of course, as all new parents could testify, any new development is like the cutest thing you ever saw in the world. I had to post both videos because they were both just too cute to only pick one. Enjoy!
Saturday, August 4, 2007
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Kadyn has taken to pretending to talk on the phone a lot lately. She'll use about anything as a pretend phone. Some of my favorites have been a belt, the remote control, and a link letter. However, her all time favorite pretend phone happens to be a bun from her subway sandwich kit. I call it the bun phone. In this video you will see her chatting away on her bun phone. I love watching her do this, she is so serious when she does it. She often imitates daddy nodding her head yes and laughing as if the person on the other phone is sooooo hilarious!
Monday, July 30, 2007
I also got some new tupperware and cookie sheets.....silence, chirp, chirp.....I know does that scream middle aged or what, but I really needed them.
A new baby started at my home daycare today. He is 5 weeks old. Kadyn thinks he's pretty neat of course. She loves all babies. She likes to chatter away to them (none of which makes any lick of sense), pat them, and kiss them over and over again. Of course, it did take a little training on my part to get her to pat gently. The poor mother of this baby was a wreck. She told me later it made her feel so much better to see how excited Kadyn was to have the baby at the house. He is so tiny. It's amazing how quickly you forget how tiny they start out. Then of course Kadyn was a whale when she was born so maybe I didn't forget anything.
So now I officially watch 2 toddlers and 2 infants. It's a full house! Don't think I'll be taking anymore. Kadyn loves it most of the time as long as the other toddler doesn't steal her toys or try to sit on her. She is learning to share on a daily basis, something that doesn't come easily to her and is hard for me to explain to a 16 month old.
Friday, July 27, 2007
Recently we have changed phone plans. Instead of buying a plan that offers an allotted amount of minutes, we are buying our minutes and using them up and then forking out the money for more. I used to take pictures with my cell phone almost everyday. Now that we have changed plans it will cost considerably more. Thus, I have to learn how to use our digital camera. A few more steps to get them up and loaded onto the computer, but.....doable. Except for one teensy problem.......the camera is currently dead and the charger is in the great abyss. My head is spinning just thinking about it.
So the point is this, more pictures to come on "The Bilberry Clan Can" once we conquer the great abyss. The Bilberry clan can find that charger, but this may take awhile:) Toodles!